Before You Scroll Past This, Let’s Get Real.

You ever sit in church, holding hands but feeling miles apart?
Ever lie in bed next to your spouse, scrolling your phone, pretending everything’s fine—but deep down, you know it’s not?

Ever say “We’ll fix this later”… but later never comes?

STOP. This weekend, before Monday morning rolls in, before the emails flood your inbox and the kids need 27 things at once—DO THIS.

These 10 marriage saving moves aren’t just “tips.” They’re battle-tested, faith-backed, and if you take them seriously, they will change everything.

#1: Say the Thing You’ve Been Holding Back

You know what I’m talking about. The thing sitting in your throat like a brick. The thing you’ve shoved down, ignored, minimized, or danced around for weeks, maybe months.

Before the weekend is over, say it—with love, with grace, but without fear.

How to Start:

“Babe, I’ve been scared to bring this up, but I need to be honest…”

Does it feel terrifying? Sure. But unspoken words build walls. And marriage was never meant to be lived behind walls.

#2: Touch Each Other for 30 Seconds Longer Than Usual

Not just a distracted side hug. Not a quick peck on the forehead as you rush out the door. I’m talking about intentional, slow, connected touch.

This Weekend Challenge:

• Hold a kiss for 10 seconds.

• Hug until you feel each other relax.

• Reach for their hand under the dinner table.

Touch isn’t just physical—it’s a bridge back to closeness and it will save your marriage.

#3: Drop Your Defenses for One Conversation

Let’s be real: most fights aren’t about what happened—they’re about how we respond.

When your spouse brings something up, do you:
✅ Actually listen?
❌ Or do you gear up to defend yourself?

This Weekend Challenge:
For ONE conversation, do this instead:

• Pause before responding.

• Assume the best, not the worst.

• Ask: “Help me understand what you’re feeling.”

Drop the shield. Be open. Be soft. Watch what happens.

#4: A Marriage Saving Prayer You Can Say Together

Yeah, yeah, I know. It sounds simple. But when was the last time you actually did it?

Prayer isn’t just about asking God for help—it’s about inviting Him into the mess with you.

How to Start:
If you don’t usually pray together, just try this:

“God, we need You. Help us love each other the way You love us.”

That’s it. You don’t need fancy words. Just invite Him in.

#5: Make a Marriage “Micro-Promise” (and Keep It)

Big promises are great. But you know what actually builds trust? Keeping the small ones.

This Weekend Challenge:
Make one micro-promise and actually follow through.

• “I’ll make your coffee before you wake up.”

• “I’ll put my phone away during dinner.”

• “I’ll text you just to say I love you.”

Small actions repeated over time? That’s what makes marriages unshakable.

#6: Apologize Without a “But”

This one? Oof. It’s a gut-punch.

We all think we’re good at apologizing. But if your apology sounds like…
❌ “I’m sorry, BUT you also—”
❌ “I shouldn’t have snapped, BUT if you hadn’t—”
❌ “I’m sorry you feel that way…” (That’s NOT an apology!)

Then you’re not really apologizing.

How to Do It Right:

“I was wrong to [specific action]. No excuses. I’m really sorry.”

No “buts.” No shifting blame. Own it. Watch your marriage transform.

#7: Laugh. No, Seriously.

When did you stop laughing together?

This weekend, find something to laugh about:

• Watch a dumb movie.

• Pull up old photos.

• Make inside jokes again.

Laughter is the marriage saving glue that holds you together. Don’t take yourselves so seriously.

#8: Ask, “What’s One Thing I Can Do to Love You Better?”

And then? Actually do it.

This Weekend Challenge:
Sit down, look your spouse in the eyes, and say:

“What’s one small thing I could do that would make you feel really loved?”

And when they tell you? DO IT.

#9: Give Grace Where You’ve Been Keeping Score

Marriage isn’t 50/50. It’s 100/100. And sometimes, one of you is only at 20%.

Where have you been keeping score? Holding onto resentment? Waiting for them to “earn” your kindness?

Let it go. Give grace. Period.

#10: Plan One Thing to Look Forward to—Together

Anticipation builds connection. What are you looking forward to together?

Plan something small but special:

• A late-night drive with worship music.

• Breakfast in bed.

• A “no-phones-allowed” coffee date.

Give yourselves something to be excited about.

This Weekend, Before Monday Morning Hits…

Say the thing.
Touch longer.
Pray together.
Keep a micro-promise.
Laugh.
Apologize right.
Drop the defenses.
Ask how to love better.
Give grace.
Plan something good.

You don’t have to do all 10. Just pick one.

Which one are you trying? Drop it in the comments!
Need more support? Book a Consultation Here—let’s talk.

Love isn’t something you have. It’s something you build. Let’s start now. ❤️

(Disclaimer: I am licensed to provide therapy and counseling services in the States of Alabama and Tennessee. This blog post does not replace professional help from a mental health provider and is meant for informational and educational purposes only. The information on this blog does not create a therapist-client relationship and I will not be held liable for any damages or losses caused by using the tips and actions shared on this blog. If your situation calls for medical attention or therapeutic intervention, seek the advice of a Licensed Physician or licensed mental health providers in good standing in your local area. Call 911 or go to your nearest Emergency Room if you are in a life threatening or emergent situation. Also, this information is not for those in abusive situations or dealing with someone engaged in criminal acts. If that has happened in your situation, call the authorities and create a safety and exit plan. You don’t have to stay in an unsafe or dangerous situation).