Meet Rhonda Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
You're here because you’re trying to decide who gets your full story.
You're reeling after the late-night discovery of shocking images while scrolling on your husband's phone. And the thought of telling someone out loud terrifies you because it'll confirm the reality of him cheating on you.
You know you need more than vague “marriage advice. and want someone who understands betrayal, takes God seriously, and won’t talk you out of what your gut is telling you or what you saw.
I’m Rhonda, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. I sit with Christian wives and Christian married couples (husband and wife) whose lives have been shaken by secret porn use, affairs, and hidden sexual sin.
When you need a therapist who understands Christian marriages impacted by porn, affairs, and hidden sexual sin.
- Validation for not having to carry responsibility for someone else’s deception.
- Respect for your body, your loss of trust, and your nervous system.
- Exploring difficult questions about how your reality may not be aligning with your faith in Christ.
A marriage is only as healthy as the two people in it. I care about your marriage, and I care about you as a person inside that marriage.
When you meet Rhonda Marie Stalb LMFT for an online session, you get space for:
What matters in session
- A break in 4 levels of trust in your relationships, body, thoughts, daily life, and faith
- A devastating wound that can’t be patched over with quick apologies and a few behavior tweaks
- Often surrounded by spiritual language that is twisted to manipulate you.
- Christian wives being told to "be quiet, nicer, or, more understanding and submissive to protect someone's image.
- Difficulty trusting your judgment as a result of being gaslighted and dismissed after confronting your spouse's infidelity.
In this work, betrayal is recognized as:
In session, when you meet Rhonda Marie Stalb, LMFT, you can expect:
You don’t have to edit anything. You can say, “I still love him,” “I feel stupid,” “I’m mad at God,” “I have no idea what I want yet.” All of that is welcome here.
- To be asked clear questions so you don't have to navigate your story alone.
- Reflective listening so you hear yourself and can see things more clearly
- Help to find honest words for what’s going on inside
- To notice how your body’s doing as you talk about hard things—(sleep, tension, checking, shutdown)
- Honesty with you about what I’m seeing over time.
- Kindness, compassion, and wise guidance.
You don’t have to edit anything. You can say, “I still love him,” “I feel stupid,” “I’m mad at God,” “I have no idea what I want yet.” All of that is welcome here.
What it’s like to work with me
- Does the story keep shifting as new details come out?
- Is there real ownership, or mostly image management?
- How do you feel after conversations—more grounded or more confused?
- What have you been told God expects from you now?
Those details help us see patterns instead of treating this like a one-time “incident.”
I pay attention to things like:
We’ll work on:
If the work needed for repair isn’t happening, I’ll say that plainly and help you think through what that means.
- Honest confession that names specific behavior and impact
- Guardrails that support long-term integrity (for porn and affair recovery)
- Communication that prevents manipulation, disrespect, and abuse.
- A shared picture of what rebuilding would actually require if you move in that direction
If the work needed for repair isn’t happening, I’ll say that plainly and help you think through what that means.
When I sit with a couple after betrayal, I’m watching for:
- Ownership. Is there clear responsibility taken, or does it slide back to you?
- Transparency. Is he willing to live in the light, or just give enough to calm things down?
- Room for your pain. Can you speak freely, or do things shut down when it’s uncomfortable?
- Follow-through. Are words turning into different choices over time?
Working with Christian Couples
For Christian wive's searching for a therapist after the discovery of infidelity, it's worth considering Rhonda Marie Stalb LMFT for dedicated betrayal trauma support.
We will look deeply at:
We use tools that help you work with your emotions, body, patterns, and thoughts in a way that fits you and honors your faith in Christ.
We will look deeply at:
- The thoughts that won’t shut off and keep circling back
- The shame and self-blame you’ve picked up from your husband, from others, or from yourself
- The ways your body is reacting—hypervigilance, checking, panic, numbness, exhaustion
- The messages you’ve absorbed from church, family, and Christian culture
- What your spouse actually does over time, not just what he promises.
We use tools that help you work with your emotions, body, patterns, and thoughts in a way that fits you and honors your faith in Christ.
Working with Christian Wives
I work with Christians on purpose. Your relationship with God is part of this, and I take that seriously.
In therapy, that can include:
I don’t use Scripture to rush you, silence you, or excuse sin. My aim is to keep God’s character and care in view while we look honestly at your reality. If spiritual care is important to you, you can meet with Rhonda Marie Stalb, LMFT, to explore Christian-integrated therapy.
In therapy, that can include:
- Praying together when you ask for it
- Reading and applying Scripture to betrayal, grief, anger, and covenant
- Naming where spiritual language has been used to minimize you or excuse harm
- Sorting through what you were taught about marriage, loyalty, and suffering—and how that’s landing now
I don’t use Scripture to rush you, silence you, or excuse sin. My aim is to keep God’s character and care in view while we look honestly at your reality. If spiritual care is important to you, you can meet with Rhonda Marie Stalb, LMFT, to explore Christian-integrated therapy.
Your Faith and Therapy Works Together
I’ve completed advanced training in approaches that focus on emotion, communication, trauma, and the nervous system.
I provide online therapy to Christian wives and married couples located in Tennessee and Alabama.
- Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT)
- Specialized training in betrayal trauma, pornography use, infidelity, and sexual integrity issues in Christian marriages
- Ongoing learning in emotion-focused, communication, trauma, and nervous system work
I provide online therapy to Christian wives and married couples located in Tennessee and Alabama.
Training and Background
Just Found Out About An Affair or Secret Behaviors that Betrayed Your Marriage Covenant?
Christian wives and Christian married couples are in the right place when facing betrayal and you want your pain, your safety, and your faith taken seriously.
And I’d be honored to walk with you.
Use the consultation button to meet Rhonda Marie Stalb, LMFT. It’s a focused time for you to share a bit of your story, ask questions, and see if working together is a good fit for you.
