You're here because you’re trying to decide who gets your full story.
You're reeling after the late-night discovery of shocking images while scrolling on his phone. And the thought of telling someone out loud terrifies you because it'll confirm the reality of your husband cheating on you.
You know you need more than vague “marriage advice. and want someone who understands betrayal, takes God seriously, and won’t talk you out of what your gut is telling you or what you saw.
I’m Rhonda, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. I sit with Christian wives and Christian married couples (husband and wife) whose lives have been shaken by secret porn use, affairs, and hidden sexual sin.
I’m Rhonda, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist focused on Christian marriages impacted by porn, affairs, and hidden sexual behavior.
When you log into a session, you get space for:
- Validation for not having to carry responsibility for someone else’s deception.
- Respect for your body and nervous system as part of the process of healing from betrayal trauma.
- How your faith is woven into how your betrayal story lands for you.
A marriage is only as healthy as the two people in it. I care about your marriage, and I care about you as a person inside that marriage.
What matters in session
In the work I do, betrayal is:
- A break in trust that reaches into your body, thoughts, daily life, and faith
- Something that can’t be patched over with quick apologies and a few behavior tweaks
- Often surrounded by spiritual language that sounds right and sits wrong.
- A place where many Christian wives have been told to be quiet, be nicer, or “be more understanding."
In session, you can expect me to:
- Ask clear questions instead of leaving you to wander the story alone
- Reflect back what I’m hearing so you can see it more clearly
- Help you find honest words for what’s going on inside
- Notice how your body’s doing as you talk about hard things—(sleep, tension, checking, shutdown)
- Be honest with you about what I’m seeing over time
You don’t have to edit anything for me. You can say, “I still love him,” “I feel stupid,” “I’m mad at God,” “I have no idea what I want yet.” All of that belongs here.
- Does the story keep shifting as new details come out?
- Is there real ownership, or mostly image management?
- How do you feel after conversations—more grounded or more confused?
- What have you been told God expects from you now?
Those details help us see patterns instead of treating this like a one-time “incident.”
So I pay attention to things like:
What it’s like to work with me
My role is to keep the space grounded and clear enough so you can think and feel at the same time, and to make choices from truth.
- The thoughts that won’t shut off and keep circling back
- The shame and self-blame you’ve picked up from him, from others, or from yourself
- The ways your body is reacting—hypervigilance, checking, panic, numbness, exhaustion
- The messages you’ve absorbed from church, family, and Christian culture
- What he actually does over time, not just what he promises
Behind the scenes, I’m using tools that help us work with your emotions, your body, your patterns, and your thoughts in a way that fits you and honors your faith.
Working with Christian Wives
Working with Christian Wives
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