When You Need a Therapist Who Understands Betrayal
You're here because you’re trying to decide who gets your full story.
You're reeling after the late-night discovery of shocking images while scrolling on his phone. And the thought of telling someone out loud terrifies you because it'll confirm the reality of your husband cheating on you.
You know you need more than vague “marriage advice. and want someone who understands betrayal, takes God seriously, and won’t talk you out of what your gut is telling you or what you saw.
I’m Rhonda, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. I sit with Christian wives and Christian married couples (husband and wife) whose lives have been shaken by secret porn use, affairs, and hidden sexual sin.
I’m Rhonda, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist focused on Christian marriages impacted by porn, affairs, and hidden sexual behavior.
When you log into a session, you get space for:
- Validation for not having to carry responsibility for someone else’s deception.
- Respect for your body and nervous system as part of the process of healing from betrayal trauma.
- How your faith is woven into how your betrayal story lands for you.
A marriage is only as healthy as the two people in it. I care about your marriage, and I care about you as a person inside that marriage.
What matters in session
In the work I do, betrayal is:
- A break in trust that reaches into your body, thoughts, daily life, and faith
- Something that can’t be patched over with quick apologies and a few behavior tweaks
- Often surrounded by spiritual language that sounds right and sits wrong.
- A place where many Christian wives have been told to be quiet, be nicer, or “be more understanding."
- Does the story keep shifting as new details come out?
- Is there real ownership, or mostly image management?
- How do you feel after conversations—more grounded or more confused?
- What have you been told God expects from you now?
Those details help us see patterns instead of treating this like a one-time “incident.”
So I pay attention to things like:
I’m direct, kind, and fully present.
In session, you can expect me to:
You don’t have to edit anything for me. You can say, “I still love him,” “I feel stupid,” “I’m mad at God,” “I have no idea what I want yet.” All of that belongs here.
In session, you can expect me to:
- Ask clear questions instead of leaving you to wander the story alone
- Reflect back what I’m hearing so you can see it more clearly
- Help you find honest words for what’s going on inside
- Notice how your body’s doing as you talk about hard things—(sleep, tension, checking, shutdown)
- Be honest with you about what I’m seeing over time
You don’t have to edit anything for me. You can say, “I still love him,” “I feel stupid,” “I’m mad at God,” “I have no idea what I want yet.” All of that belongs here.
What it’s like to work with me
We’ll work on:
If the work needed for repair isn’t happening, I’ll say that plainly and help you think through what that means.
- Honest confession that names specific behavior and impact
- Guardrails that support long-term integrity (for porn and affair recovery)
- Communication that doesn’t bulldoze, disappear, or spin
- A shared picture of what rebuilding would actually require if you move in that direction
If the work needed for repair isn’t happening, I’ll say that plainly and help you think through what that means.
When I sit with a couple after betrayal, I’m watching for:
- Ownership. Is there clear responsibility taken, or does it slide back to you?
- Transparency. Is he willing to live in the light, or just give enough to calm things down?
- Room for your pain. Can you speak freely, or do things shut down when it’s uncomfortable?
- Follow-through. Are words turning into different choices over time?
When I meet one-on-one with a Christian wife after betrayal, I’m looking at:
Behind the scenes, I’m using tools that help us work with your emotions, your body, your patterns, and your thoughts in a way that fits you and honors your faith.
- The thoughts that won’t shut off and keep circling back
- The shame and self-blame you’ve picked up from him, from others, or from yourself
- The ways your body is reacting—hypervigilance, checking, panic, numbness, exhaustion
- The messages you’ve absorbed from church, family, and Christian culture
- What he actually does over time, not just what he promises
Behind the scenes, I’m using tools that help us work with your emotions, your body, your patterns, and your thoughts in a way that fits you and honors your faith.
Working with Christian Couples
Working with Christian Wives
I work with Christians on purpose. Your relationship with God is part of this, and I take that seriously.
In therapy, that can include:
I don’t use Scripture to rush you, silence you, or excuse sin. My aim is to keep God’s character and care in view while we look honestly at your reality.
In therapy, that can include:
- Praying together when you ask for it
- Reading and applying Scripture to betrayal, grief, anger, and covenant
- Naming where spiritual language has been used to minimize you or excuse harm
- Sorting through what you were taught about marriage, loyalty, and suffering—and how that’s landing now
I don’t use Scripture to rush you, silence you, or excuse sin. My aim is to keep God’s character and care in view while we look honestly at your reality.
Your Faith and Therapy Works Together
I’ve completed advanced training in approaches that focus on emotion, communication, trauma, and the nervous system.
I provide online therapy to Christian wives and married couples located in Tennessee and Alabama.
- Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT)
- Specialized training in betrayal trauma, pornography use, infidelity, and sexual integrity issues in Christian marriages
- Ongoing learning in emotion-focused, communication, trauma, and nervous system work
I provide online therapy to Christian wives and married couples located in Tennessee and Alabama.
Training and Background
Just Found Out About An Affair or Secret Behaviors that Betrayed Your Marriage Covenant?
If you’re a Christian wife or part of a Christian married couple facing betrayal and you want your pain, your safety, and your faith to be taken seriously, you're in the right place.
And I’d be honored to walk with you.
You can use the consultation button to schedule a paid consultation with me. It’s a focused time for you to share a bit of your story, ask questions, and see if working together is a good fit for you.
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